Hearing that your partner is unexpectedly pregnant can stop you in your tracks. You may suddenly find yourself flooded with questions.
It’s okay to feel unsure or even scared. What matters most is how you respond from here. There’s support available for both you and your partner, and you don’t have to walk this road alone. Pregnancy Resources is here to help with free resources and information.
Process Your Own Emotions
Before you can be there for someone else, you have to understand where you’re at emotionally. Take a step back to reflect for a moment. Are you feeling confused, anxious, or uncertain? These feelings can be overwhelming, but acknowledging them is critical.
Discussing the situation with someone else, like a close friend or relative, is often helpful. By giving yourself permission to process what this means for you, you’ll be better prepared to support your partner.
If you need some time before discussing the next steps, that’s okay. Letting your partner know you’re processing doesn’t mean you don’t care; it means you care enough to be fully present when it counts.
Learn What She Needs
Your partner is navigating a complex emotional journey of her own. While it’s natural to have your own opinions or hopes about what happens next, now is the time to focus on being present, not persuasive.
Instead of trying to fix things or offer immediate solutions, focus on listening. Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling about everything?” or “What would be helpful for you right now?” These conversations build connection and trust, which will be essential as you move forward.
You can also show your support by offering to accompany her to doctor’s appointments or options information sessions. Being involved in this way communicates that you’re a reliable and caring partner.
Find Support Today
One of the most empowering steps you can take together is to get accurate information. Pregnancy Resources offers free pregnancy testing and limited obstetrical ultrasounds to help confirm how far along your partner is and whether the pregnancy is progressing. This information is critical to exploring her options.
We also provide confidential, unbiased information about parenting, adoption, and abortion. These conversations are designed to offer clarity in a non-judgmental environment.
If this situation feels heavy, know that you don’t have to figure it out alone. Pregnancy Resources is here to support you and your partner with compassionate care tailored to your situation.
Request a free, confidential appointment to get started.
Pregnancy Resources does not provide or refer for abortions.
