Do You Think She’s Pregnant?
If your partner has just announced she’s pregnant, you probably wonder what you should do. Don’t panic. You’ve got this, and we can help you.
She needs you now more than ever before. It’s crucial that you provide the emotional and physical support she needs and that you work together. No one should have to face an unplanned pregnancy alone.
Here are some tips for what you should and shouldn’t do:
What You Should Do
- Keep the lines of communication open. Talk with her and listen to what she has to say. Let her share her fears and concerns. You need to be able to share your thoughts with her, too.
- Encourage her to schedule an appointment at Pregnancy Resources for free pregnancy testing and ultrasound. Come with her to her appointment.
- Be present. She will be struggling with nausea and fatigue. Help her with tasks she’s too tired or too sick to do.
- Talk with people who care. Reach out to trusted friends and your parents. Discussing the situation with those who will be directly affected is essential. Keeping it a secret only adds to the stress.
- Educate yourself. Get as much information as you can about your options.
- Be honest with her and yourself.
- Take responsibility.
What You Should Not Do
- Don’t run away or ghost her. This situation isn’t going to go away because you do.
- Don’t pressure her to make one decision over another. You need to work together as a team.
- Don’t tell her, “I don’t care what you do. You decide.” No one should have to make this important decision by themselves.
- Don’t stop talking. She needs to hear what you’re thinking.
If She Chooses to Parent
Ultimately, what she chooses to do about the pregnancy is her decision. If she chooses to parent the child, we have resources for you, too. Join our Fatherhood Program. Our classes will teach you about the importance of good prenatal care, caring for a newborn, car safety, parenting a toddler, etc.
We have men available to mentor you and encourage you in your new role as a father. Contact us to set up an appointment.
